I don’t’ know the origin of the “seven year itch.” I didn’t even know what the phrase meant until recently. I gather that along about the seventh year of marriage people start to feel like they need something else. I didn’t research where this came from for this post, but it doesn’t make much sense to me. In fact, I am more content now than ever before.
Rare is the giddy head-over-heels feeling that characterized the months leading up to our marriage. I suppose if one is chasing that he might run off in the wrong direction. It is rather like a drug, and I guess I can understand how one would be addicted to it. What has replaced it is something more meaningful. My love for Linda now is not based so much on how she makes me feel as it is in who she is. We think we know someone when we marry them. We often find out we didn’t’ know much about them at all. I am proud to say that those qualities I saw in Linda at the beginning were real and are even more pronounced today. That’s not to say there haven’t been challenges to our relationship or that there won’t be more in the future, but our determination to love each other and to love God gives us the strength to overcome them.
Time only causes my appreciation for Linda to grow. I believe in her. Knowing her character allows me to keep perspective when the hard times do come. Why would I want to go looking elsewhere? To betray my wife in search of a fleeting emotional high makes no sense. Besides, anyone who would indulge me has already demonstrated a lack of character that foreshadows the doom of anything that might result from following that path. I like what I have; a devoted, loving, faithful, godly wife.